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Why Doesn't This Manifesting Thing
Work for Me? By Dawn Fields - You’ve written out your goals. You
read them every day. You do the visualization exercises. You do everything
you’ve read about in this newsletter and all the other newsletters,
seminars, self-help books and web sites, but nothing seems to be happening
in your life.
Yes, healing/recovery is possible. The recovery process requires
a multifaceted therapeutic process, facilitated by a professional who
is trained in the recovery process. Traditional therapy is ineffective
for sexual abuse recovery.
STAGE 1: Victim
Person identifies everything within the context of the abuse, resulting
in difficulty functioning in daily life.
professional needs to establish a therapeutic foundation with the
individual.
professional needs to educate and support the individual for the
recovery process.
Grieving process needs to focus on specific details of the abuse
experience.
One needs to GO into the Pain to GET OUT of the Pain. The majority
of professionals neglect this important recovery process--thinking
the person will be 'retraumatized' if done effectively that is
not the case.
Identification of 'triggers and how to diffuse them.
Identify barriers in treatment and how to overcome them.
Process Anger/Rage, Sadness, Shame, Guilt.
Identify themes in the trauma experience and how it impacts
the person's functioning.
STAGE 2: Survivor
Person identifies abuse as past and is functioning moderately, but
maintains primary identity with the abuse.
professional establishes a foundation for deeper work.
Process Anger/Rage, Sadness, Shame, Guilt.
Address difficulties with partners and families and develop
strategies to deal with them.
Identify long-term stress and complicated coping mechanisms--replace
coping mechanisms with healthy effective behavior and attitudes.
Dispel the chicken or the egg dilemma.
Identify and restructure belief system.
Prepare for and confront perpetrator(s) and co-perpetrators(s).
STAGE 3: Thriver
Person no longer primarily identifies with the abuse and abuse is
integrated with the remainder of personal history resulting in healthy
functioning.
professional establishes foundation for the thriver stage.
Individual developes healthy strategies for living life, able
to deal with life's issues with ease.
Individual lets go of sexual abuse identity and forgives perpetrator(s)
and co-perpetrators(s).
Individual developes strategies to deal with some 'flare ups'
of old behavior patterns.
Individual integrates the trauma with other life experiences--able
to talk with ease about the experience of sexual abuse and by
whom.
